Some Surprising Facts About Orgasms

An orgasm is the peak of sexual pleasure. It typically consists of a series of involuntary muscle contractions in the sexual organs, lower pelvic muscles, and the anus. An orgasm is accompanied by the release of endorphins - opioid-like chemicals produced in the brain that give a feeling of euphoria. During an orgasm the person experiences a change in heart rate, blood pressure, and respiratory rate and depth. There is an intense and explosive feeling of pleasure. Great deal of differences exist in the manner in which men and women achieve orgasm during sexual intercourse or intimacy. In males, the most common way of achieving orgasm is by the stimulation of the penis. In females, the most common way of achieving orgasm is by stimulation of the clitoris.

Female orgasm occurs when beforehand the vaginal walls moisten and the clitoris enlarges. Then the clitoris goes inward under the clitoral hood and the vagina gets about one-third smaller. There are rhythmic contractions of the pelvic muscle, vagina and uterus. Females do not have a refractory period. On the other hand male orgasm is achieved as the male experiences rapid, rhythmic contractions of the urethra, the muscles at the base of the penis, and the prostate. Ejaculation of semen usually occurs through the urethral opening of the penis. A male orgasm usually lasts from 4 to about 10 seconds. Ejaculation without orgasm is possible, as is having an orgasm without ejaculation. After an orgasm the male goes through a refractory period - this is a short period after the nerve cell fires during which it cannot respond to additional stimulation. An orgasm cannot occur during the refractory period.
Men rarely have problems reaching orgasm. Women usually do hence knowing some female mysteries help to understand and work to stimulate faster orgasm. Women are complicated creatures. It seems like men never fully understand what they want both emotionally and physically. While men haven’t quite figured out how to keep women from getting mad at them, or from breaking into spontaneous crying fits,experienced has helped to devise a surefire way for us to figure out their plumbing down below and help them reach orgasm faster. The big “o” is sex isn't about the destination; it's about the means of travelling. Well, that is a lovely sentiment, but if it takes five buses, two trains and a plane to arrive at Destination Orgasm, the journey can get a tad tedious! That is why you want to learn the way to Destination Faster Orgasms instead. The good news is, there's a lot you can do to speed up your orgasms:

Prime yourself for sex by turning yourself on beforehand. Even if you are out to dinner with friends, while he is talking, think about what that tongue will do to you later, how much you would rather his fingers be inside you than wrapped around that beer glass, you get the picture. Several factors seem to influence whether women have both multiple and vaginal orgasms (as opposed to clitoral orgasms, which are more common): You can't control the sensitivity of your G-spot and other internal spots, but you can strengthen your PC muscles by doing your Kegel exercises. Also, be sure you are being flexible when it comes to trying different stimulation and orgasm triggers. In other words, when one technique brings you to orgasm quickly, make a note of what worked so you can try it again!
Match your foreplay to your mood. If you're feeling really horny, odds are good that you'll want to hastily apply some lubricant and get him to penetrate with no foreplay at all. If you're feeling only so-so sexy, lots of oral sex might be necessary to get you anywhere close to orgasm.
The better he can control his orgasm, the better your chances are for having more orgasms. As you are stimulating him, get him to rate how turned on he's feeling on a scale from 1 to 10 (10 being the no-looking-back-now point). Drive him to distraction by revving him up to a seven or eight, then slowing it down again, several times over before letting him go all the way. Make frequent contact with his penis. If your hand, tongue or vagina touches it more frequently, it will be less sensitive to the touch and he'll last longer. If he starts to feel out of control, try giving him a squeeze. Squeezing the base of the penis firmly for a few seconds can delay ejaculation.

1. Orgasms can relieve pain. Got a headache? Maybe you should have sex after all. There is some evidence that orgasms can relieve all kinds of pain—including pain from arthritis, pain after surgery and even pain during childbirth. The mechanism is largely due to the body’s release of a chemical called oxytocin during orgasm. Oxytocin facilitates bonding, relaxation and other positive emotional states. While the pain relief from orgasm is short-lived—usually only about eight to 10 minutes, past research indicates that even thinking about sex can help alleviate pain.

2. Condom use doesn’t affect orgasm quality.

In case you’re wondering if a condom has anything to do with the quality of your orgasm, don’t. “Women are equally likely to experience orgasm with or without a condom, dispelling myths that condoms don't make for good sex. In fact, condoms may help a couple spend more time having sex, as a man doesn't have to ‘pull out’ quickly if he's worried about ejaculating too soon.

3. Thirty percent of women have trouble reaching orgasm.

If you’ve ever had trouble climaxing, you’re not alone. According to Planned Parenthood statistics, as many as 1 in 3 women have trouble reaching orgasm when having sex. And as many as 80 percent of women have difficulty with orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone. Clitoral stimulation during intercourse can help but so can medical treatment. Female sexual dysfunction (FSD), which encompasses the inability to orgasm, is very common—as high as 43 percent, according to some surveys—and has been a topic of much debate and medical investigation lately. For some women, topical testosterone therapies or some oral medications can be helpful, but few medical treatments have solid evidence behind them.

4. Finding your G-spot may improve the likelihood of orgasm.

Can you identify your G-spot? The "G" refers to Ernst Gräfenberg, MD, a German gynecologist who is credited with “discovering” it in the 1950s, and sex experts have long touted this area of female genitalia, which is believed to contain a large number of nerve endings, as the key to helping women achieve longer and stronger orgasm. But it’s a controversial topic.

5. Orgasm gets better with age.

Sure, there are plenty of things to gripe about when it comes to age, but your sex life may actually improve—specifically the quality and frequency of orgasm. As an example, while 61 percent of women ages 18 to 24 experienced orgasm the last time they had sex, 65 percent of women in their 30s did and about 70 percent of women in their 40s and 50s did. Though the survey didn't indicate why orgasms come easier with age, we can assume that as women become more sexually experienced, they have more confidence in the bedroom and therefore enjoy themselves more. Additionally, the trust and intimacy that most women experience in long-term relationships can help improve sexual confidence as well.

6. Women who mix things up in the bedroom have more frequent orgasm.

If you have trouble reaching orgasm during intercourse, consider switching things up. It is significantly easier for women to experience orgasm when they engage in a variety of sex acts as opposed to just one act . For example, vaginal sex plus oral sex would be linked to a higher likelihood of orgasm than either one of them alone. This may be because more sex acts mean that people spend more time having sex.

7. A woman’s sexual self-esteem can affect the quality of her orgasms.

Research shows that how a woman feels about her genitals is linked to the quality of her orgasms. Every vagina looks different and there is no ‘perfect’ way for a vagina to look. As long as your vagina is pain-free and you don’t have any abnormal discharge, sores or other medical problems, you can consider yourself healthy and normal. Increase your orgasm potential by increasing your confidence. It’s important to treat yourself the way you would want others to treat you—send yourself healthy, positive messages about yourself and your body. Another trick: Pull out a hand mirror and take a look! Getting to know yourself down there is the first step in feeling confident about your parts.

8. There is an orgasm “gap.”

While it’s true that a small number of men have trouble with orgasm, sex experts report that it’s rare. Instead, a significant percentage of women report not having had an orgasm the last time they had sex, even when their male partner thought they had. While 85 percent of men thought their partner had an orgasm during their most recent episode of sex, only 64 percent of women reported having an orgasm. The cure? It’s complicated but women who are comfortable with and understand their body’s pleasure points can often learn to orgasm regularly.

9. In rare cases, orgasm can happen without genital stimulation.

We’ve all heard about women who can orgasm while sitting on a train or while getting a massage, but it's no urban legend. Experts say it’s a real phenomenon. The reason for spontaneous orgasms during certain activities is twofold—increased blood flow to the genitals and vibration of or contact with the clitoris. The increased blood flow and the general relaxation of a massage can lead to orgasm sometimes, too.

10. For most women, it takes a while…

Many women take longer to climax than their male partners, and that’s perfectly normal. In fact, according to statistics, most women require at least 20 minutes of sexual activity to climax. If you find that your partner often reaches orgasm before you do, there are ways to help him slow down. Mental exercises can sometimes work, and so can firm pressure around the base of the penis.